In the 1960's there was a study of a village full of Italians who lived in Canada as close familial units. As society developed and travelling to study/work became the norm, families included other members from different backgrounds. Inevitably the once solid families began to feel threads snapping in their rich familial tapestry.
It's September now, a new university Erasamus Year, where younger members of the family begin to follow their dreams, mix with new types of people, basically - move on from being village people to become worldly people, suffering growing pains in inevitable to become your new self in 3 years time.
Uni Life can be very lonely and very isolating. It was for me and many of my university friends.
We had put ourselves on an island of judgement where professors judged students, where students judged their surroundings for safety, where students ran on adrenaline for a while until they settled. Where new ideas, backgrounds blended and sometimes clashed. It was a time of not really belonging with one's self.
It is well known that loneliness will try its best to stop you succeeding.
Dr Phil states- 'we are all set up for failure, trying to succeed is two times harder.'
University's have people who drop out. Let that not be your story because doning your cap and gown, and crossing that invisible intellectual line, carrying that piece of paper, means so much. It makes you the new person - who can never return to be the person you were before, or be seen or feel like that person you were before.
If you can start or join-in an Offliner's or Chitter Chatter Club, it's easy to make new friends. There you will be able to borrow a group of peers who have walked your walk and want to help you through Uni and build your confidence up.
Never Forget.
Our minds have the ability to pull us down to the point of giving up. We have to resist this and ask for help as early as we possibly can.
Hopefully not on my watch!
Potentially. If we don't do anything about our loneliness we could be keeping university culture the same as always where loneliness is felt but a secret, or we can talk about it, be unashamed, and use our time in adversity for a lifetime transformation for ourselves , university connected communities and future generations of students seeing uni tapestries back together.
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