Ice turns to water when it gets warm.
The sun radiates heat.
Men are not capable of giving birth.
Cakes have calories in them.
When sad we shed tears.
It's been years since I took a holiday, and I've lost my sense of adventure.
I feel isolated and have no friends.
Everyone enjoys the sound of babies crying.
Determine which statements are facts and which are fiction.
Now listen to what you think and say today, and ask yourself, was what I just said or thought factually accurate, or was my account, actually fictional? Whatever it was it is your take on the truth that you have perceived. Another person may not perceive it this way. We all know that our perception is made ùp from our thoughts, culture, upbringing, and formative years which have heavily influenced the subconscious, I call this the colours of our minds. These colours shape our words and reactions today as these responses are deeply buried in our psyche, and many ideals we hold today could have been given to us rightly or wrongful, unconsciously or consciously. Also passed down through peers, media, and relationships.
Analysing them today and asking yourself if these thoughts/words are based on unchangeable facts or fiction can often explain unexamined falsehoods we or others say or think.
Whilst some individuals develop fresh new adult perspectives, others never question their perspectives or beliefs.
Is it possible that we deceive ourselves?
Absolutely. Could we also pass these misconceptions onto others including our children?
Certainly, and our reactions, behaviors, negative habits, and unregulated emotions too.
For instance, if a parent struggles with alcoholism and financial issues, they might fabricate numerous stories to justify their need for alcohol. 'I can't survive without a drink.'
Reflecting over the above statements, sometimes, we find ourselves crying out of joy.
Taking a single step or clicking a computer mouse to have an adventure, even before a journey begins. We all understand that one can feel lonely in a crowd or with a partner, and some people hate the sound of babies crying.
Its amazing what we tell ourselves. 'I am so lonely I will die, Nobody likes me. I can't go out.'
So...
What’s the best way to tackle loneliness' confusion?
Will you visualise a metaphorical balance scale when things feel unclear?
Ask yourself what constitutes fact and what is fiction in this situations you face, do these ideas stem from your own imagination or from factual un-changeable information?
Use your scale to assess how they weigh against each other. You'll soon discover where your thinking and decision making comes from, pure factual truth or fictional truth.
Facts cannot be changed but fiction always moves dynamically especially when someone else reflects what you say and think, back to you. Or maybe others can decide what is fact or fiction, țruth or lies, when you reflect it back to them, helping them move forwards instead.
Deciphering what is fact or fiction is a tool rarely used so give it a try and let us know if it helps with your mind's chatter, and eases anxiety. You can see how connecting with people in the Chitter Chatter Clubs is turning grey worried faces into smiles. Also we all know that we never used to feel lonely when we went out all the time - shopping/library/doctors/talked to neighbours/riding a bus/standing in queues because we were having a daily dose of being around our tribe - people.
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