Loneliness Recovery | Chitter Chatter Club

Looking For A Way Out of Loneliness

Everyone who admits they are lonely, is looking for a way out. That’s why you have come here and are reading this.

We want you - out of loneliness and this is a great place to start but it is your choice on how much effort you put into your recovery.

We don’t offer a magic bullet and there is no magic wand. We (all who have connected through loneliness and Chitter Chatter) know the trauma of loneliness. We know you will take as much as you can bear until finally, you begin to make different choices.

However, if you are in a place where you cannot make choices, you need to see your GP.

This may seem like the impossible, but we want you to go. If you cannot, phone your local mental health Crisis Team and let them know. They Care! We Care! And you deserve a good life!

That is why I am using my life, my loneliness history to help you recover too.

Trying To Change

Vulnerability is Strength

Trying to change Hurts but Baby Steps are the way Forward.

That gravel gruelling feeling of trying to do something new will be the rock on which you live from soon. This gravelly aching barking emotion within your gut is Vulnerability.

This vulnerability rock has been shattered by life, relationships, loss, illness, disability etc and we’ve all had to build an ego to traverse our way through life so we fit into the system and look where it has got us - to the loneliest place imaginable. When we try to change, it’s too painful as this gravelly lava erupts within so we don't try.

But if you do try it will hold you up so you will never reach rock bottom again. It will still feel scratchy in your gut, tight in your shoulders, breathless and so full of fear but the outcomes of pushing forward and making a change will have the opposite result. As it will give you the boldness and strength to try to do new things. It will hold you up, It will be there if you fall, it will grow you. It’s fragments will join together and become your strength, your boldness, a place of courage and trust as your decisions become braver and bigger.

How? As each time you rely on it and act through that course inner feeling, you will see your bravery, your strength, your resilience. You will begin to trust yourself once again and enjoy life together with your rock as it cannot move. It is your anchor.

It is your rock - no one-else's and it will always be there, so you will never be alone.

We’ve seen islands balancing on rocks, we’ve seen Shirley Valentine talk and rely on her rock in Greece when she had no one, we’ve heard it over and over in the Bible, now it is your turn to stand on yours.

It is your home.

Challenging Stereotypical Loneliness

Do schools kill creativity?

Boxed in People - start very young

Stereotypes lock us into boxes. Old. Young. Thin. Fat. White. Black. Single. Married. Lonely etc etc.

Massive majorities of people live as Boxed- in people. They don’t like it, neither do lions in cages. Some are silenced, some roar, some submit to the powers to be, but no one likes it and the majority of us unconsciously live it because it started when we were too young to argue it.

Monkey Mind Vs Monk Mind

Think Like a Monk

When it is quiet -read

When it is noisy -write

When it is still - breathe

Change your mind - Change your life

Listen to yourself - not the system

You are who you say you are-

Most sufferers admit, ‘I am lonely and I’m struggling with negative thoughts.’ This is a cruel internal dialogue. It is not your voice.

It will try to stop you doing, trying, wanting. If you hang around with this voice 24 hours a day, potentially you will become it.

Surround yourself with your sane positive truths.